Holiday Planning for Senior Care: Conversations Families Should Have
The holidays are one of the few times families are all together — which often means you notice changes that are easy to miss during quick visits or phone calls.
If you’re starting to wonder whether it’s time for more support, this is also a good time to have a simple planning conversation.
Signs Your Loved One May Be Struggling More Than They Admit
Some common cues families notice during holiday visits include:
the home feels cluttered, unsafe, or unclean
spoiled food in the fridge or little food available
new bruises, frequent “small falls,” or unsteady walking
missed medications or confusion about pills
wearing the same clothes repeatedly or declining hygiene
more forgetfulness, repetition, or confusion
increased anxiety, mood changes, or frustration
difficulty cooking, driving, or managing daily routines
not wanting to be alone (even if they don’t say it directly)
These signs don’t always mean assisted living is needed immediately — but they can be a sign it’s time to plan.
Money Topics to Talk About (Before It Becomes Urgent)
Planning ahead reduces stress for everyone. Helpful topics include:
monthly income (Social Security, retirement, pension)
savings or investments available for care
long-term care insurance (if they have it)
whether selling the home may be part of the plan
who will manage bills if memory declines
power of attorney and emergency contacts
Even a basic conversation now can prevent a crisis later.
How to Start the Conversation Without a Fight
Instead of leading with:
“You need to move.”
Try something softer like:
“I’ve noticed a few things and I’m feeling worried about safety.”
“I want you to have more support so things don’t feel so hard.”
“Let’s just look at a few options—no pressure.”
“If something happened tomorrow, what would we want the plan to be?”
The goal isn’t to force a decision — it’s to make sure your loved one is safe and supported.
If you’re starting to explore senior care options, we’re always happy to answer questions and help families understand what support could look like in a calm, home-style environment.
